Let's talk about sex!

Quoting Salt 'N' Pepper

Let's talk about sex, baby
Let's talk about you and me
Let's talk about all the good things
And the bad things that may be
Let's talk about sex

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Let's talk about sex for now to the people at home or in the crowd
It keeps coming up anyhow....

Yes, it keeps coming up anyhow.

Growing up, some people wondered why sex was such a driving factor in young people's lives...especially under 13 years of age. "Maybe she/he was sexually abused...?" they wonder.

Nope.

"How did he/she know about this so young?"

Doesn't everyone?

One of my favorite quotes is from the Science Fiction TV Series, Farscape

CHIANA: “So…why are all the little girls wearing all those clothes?”
BOBBY: “Because they see it on the TV, and in all the magazines.”
CHIANA: “But "somebody" sold them the clothes…so "somebody" wants them to have sex!”

We are exposed to sex early. We even teach our 2 and 3 year olds about "Good touches" and "Bad touches". We do this to protect them, so they learn the proper ethics in society--that's a part of society.

Sex has many faces:
authority over another, survival of the fittest, accumulation of wealth, personal connection, binding relationships, Hell and Purgatory, spiritual enlightenment, pleasure/honey of the flesh, a rite of passage, symbols of a country, a nation, a land...art.

And it's all a part of society.

To match the definitions of the above list, is this list:

Phallic symbols/Phallic amulets (Rome, Pompeii)
Romeo and Juliet (Hmm...at 13 yrs...at least Juliet was...a different time, I know)
Geisha/Concubine/Courtesan
Chocolate
The Oldest Profession
Greek Roman Fertility Rituals
Marilyn Monroe
Lambada
The Birth of Venus/The Sleeping Venus
Kama Sutra
The size of feet


Sex is right up there with violence (see Embarrassed about watching Hentai?)...and it's ALL AROUND US.

The Bad Side of Sex

Bad things happen. We make bad decision. We do things because of it. All and all, if you survive, and name and face what it is, you will become empowered.

I, for one, need to fight in my own way...writing.

Quills (2000)

If I wasn't such a bad woman on the page, I couldn't be such a good woman in life.

That's a funny quote. I love it! LOL!

In my stories, characters are taken advantage of--it's in the grey area where it's not detrimental to one's life, where they don't go into depression and/or have nightmares everlasting. The physical act thrust upon them (no pun intended) becomes a stain on their lives. From that, they form a path, a path of power. And I hope that readers can see that from my writing.

I use sex a lot. It's a tool to bring more emotion out of the story, as well as something fun that I like to write about. I don't consider the scenes to be too much like erotica, but more like romantica--something between erotic and romance--an erotic romance--Romantica!

I quote Daisy Harris

Erotica describes an individual’s journey in the context of sexual encounters, and erotic romance describes two or more people’s journey in the context of a sexual relationship.

Is Romantica someone's fantasy? For some. But, it's also someone's way of life, someone's past, someone's future, someone's decision, someone's fear, someone's hatred, someone's goal, someone's power.

And all of it pertains to sex.

The Good Side of Sex

There's more things in life besides sex? Sure there is. You can say the same thing about eating, money, and surviving. Sex is just one of many aspects of life....that has a big piece of the pie ;)

In film, it becomes a part of the fun, like in Porky's (1982) and Sex and the City (TV Series 1998 until 2004 and Films 2008 and 2010). We have Danielle Steel. We have all those powerful women in the "profession" who counselled great men. We have the statue of David. We have each other (wouldn't be here if the egg didn't meet that sperm...or is it the other way around). It's enjoyable. It's beautiful. It's love.

All In All

You don't have to read it, or watch it, or write it...just like violence, you can try to avoid it as much as possible, but somehow, someway, sometime, someday, it's gonna come at your door--within an inch or a mile. It's in our lives. It created us.

You can either rule it or have it rule over you.

I don't know about you, but I when I'm backed into a corner, I show my fangs!


Until Next Time!