tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-39581412098961981362024-03-13T13:04:25.989-05:00The Quill of Deana ZhollisNight Before Day - Conquer The Night To Live Your Dreams In The DayDeana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-31412050193425001082017-11-18T23:38:00.001-06:002020-05-16T11:06:32.043-05:00<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I have to be frank. When I heard about Disney making <i>The Princess and the Frog</i>, and selecting the main character to be African American, I was apprehensive. There was so many things that could go wrong. There was so many things that could happen to not allow this Princess to be accepted in the long list of Disney Princesses.<br />
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And so the year 2009 came, and I went to the theaters to see this version of the Disney's African American Princess.<br />
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And I came out of the theater... Very Disappointed.<br />
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I am a fan of the fantasy element, the magic, the Happily Ever After, the True Love and True Kiss. It's what makes Disney... well... magical. But this film.... This film tried to make things, forgive the urban or slang usage.. "keeping it real".<br />
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I'm sorry. I don't like "real" when it comes to magic and for the impossible to becoming possible. I wanted the same Princess that I read about in the Frog Prince tales, with a twist, like all the other Princesses.<br />
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But Disney's choice for this story made it much too singular, and thus making it not as globally accepted as it should have been. I mean... New Orleans? Come on. Not everyone is familiar with the culture, nor is everyone universally into that type of unique sounding music. Personally, there is just a few zydeco music I would listen to. As for the Jazz, there are quite a lot of universally accepted Jazz out there, accept for the Jazz in this film. I mean, who hasn't heard of <i>Funny Valentine</i>'s breathy and sexy song? But the Jazz choices for this film? It made the story too isolated to one place, and selected to just one type of people. At least, that was the way it was presented.<br />
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Let's look at a different way of presentation....<br />
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There was <i>Moana </i>that represented the Pacific Islanders, <i>Lilo and Stitch </i>for Hawaii, and <i>Mulan </i>for China, <i>Pocahontas </i>for Native Americans, Jasmin from <i>Aladdin </i>for India, and not to mention <i>The Lion King </i>for Africa, though not with a lead female character, yet still in the cultural mix. And ALL of these films were universally accepted.<br />
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All of these films where presented in a way that held a story and music that could be accepted by a large population of people and yet Tiana....felt... isolated.<br />
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I haven't heard a single song from <i>The Princess and the Frog </i>that was played over-and-over again like those other cultural Disney movies I just listed above. I mean the other films had songs that became popular hits! In <i>The Princess and the Frog, e</i>very song was almost forgettable. Its songs were missing that true heart of music. The kind that sinks into the human soul like, <i>A Whole New World, Colors of the Wind, Hawaiian Roller Coaster Ride, </i>and <i>Reflection. </i><br />
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And I know Disney knows the magical formula to reach the hearts of people through music. It just wasn't conjured up for the <i>The Princess and the Frog, </i><br />
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But what was REALLY disappointing about this Disney film, was that Tiana was <b><u>not </u>a REAL PRINCESS</b>!!!! Nor was her Prince (Prince Naveen) of the same cultural background, but just thrown in to represent "brown". Tiana does become a princess through marriage, like Cinderella and Belle, but Prince Naveen, initially, is looking for a "princess," but not of royal lineage, to kiss him and change him back from frog to human. A Princess of Mardi Gras? This was about a parade, a grand city party! Not a land and people. Not a Princess of bloodline, but one who was voted in for a moment in time.<br />
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I'm assuming this decision to have to "keep things real" is why the Frog Princess wasn't provided a real princess title. I figure this reasoning was so that the low income can easily and readily identify with her. But for me, we already have Cinderella and Belle stories for that.<br />
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<i>The Princess and the Frog </i>could have been done with magic, and a real Princess title, along with a plot twist in the story to make the heroine a strong woman, who matches her man of choice, be it prince or otherwise. The original Frog Princess was spoiled, and we could have started with that. A Princess who had everything, took it for granted, looses everything (dirt poor), and then had to work her way back to the top, with obstacles thrown in her way. Then, after overcoming these trials and tribulations, only then would she become a deserving Princess, who has learned to share her golden ball.<br />
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Like <i><b>Once Upon A Time</b></i>'s version in Season 7.<br />
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I am SO GLAD, this show came to correct, and make a better story, for Tiana than the animated version. We will now have a Princess (played by Mekia Cox) who will earn our respect, who starts a path seeking help from others, until then finding the strength inside herself to become her own hero. Not to mention, she also doesn't spend most of her time being a frog, but actually helps a frog (one who is being blackmailed by the use of his imprisoned True Love), who was the one needing saving, to become a stronger person.<br />
And...and...and... and...and... <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: red;"><b>She Is Actually A REAL PRINCESS!!!!</b></span></span><br />
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A Princess who's very large dreams are crushed, but then are stitched back together, and slowly becomes a reality--with hard work and the strong support of loving friends.This is the type of story that every little girl can relate to, and learn from, to become the "Princess" in her own life. And THAT'S how you "keep it real".<br />
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Thank You SO MUCH, <span style="font-size: large;"><i><b>Once Upon A Time</b></i>!!!!!!</span><br />
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I write this blog because things are now right in this world, and I can now enjoy an African descent Princess of Disney.<br />
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So, now Disney, can we have a African Disney Prince? No? Yes? Or perhaps I'm asking for too much. Heh. Heh. I just may have to settle for The Black Panther (Shuri), with her intelligent, whimsical, bad-ass! Yibambe!Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-90658439214417952642014-03-13T22:19:00.000-05:002014-03-13T22:19:01.323-05:00Fairy Tales, Fantasy, Everywhere I see<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I think I've mentioned this before, but I SO love this age of TV. There's fantasy and magic all OVER the place. There's so much going on, I can't keep up with them all.<br />
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<li>Once Upon A Time</li>
<li>Sleepy Hollow</li>
<li>Tomorrow People</li>
<li>Grimm</li>
<li>Almost Human</li>
<li>Being Human</li>
<li>Under the Dome</li>
<li>Haven</li>
<li>Dracula</li>
<li>American Horror Story</li>
<li>Game of Thrones</li>
<li>True Blood</li>
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And those are just a few that I watch. There are more that I don't keep up with like The Vampire Diaries or Supernatural, but there's just so much to choose from, I'm just giddy with the choices!!<br />
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It makes one wonder: Why the Slew of Speculative Shows?<br />
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What's even more interesting, adults watch them--those brought up with Star Wars and Star Trek under our wings. Yet there are those who "just don't get it," who can't identify with why these shows have so much appeal....<br />
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I believe that these TV shows are the same as the stories that have always been told. They've been collected by Wilhelm Grimm and Jacob Grimm, by Andrew Lang, told by Hans Christian Andersen, by Jean de La Fontaine, by Charles Perrault, and told in Aesop's Fables. These are fantastic tales that pull us to them and provide a way to tell a story of basic human life. While for others, it's just entertainment, for some of us, it's much, much more. For some of us, the way the morals are presented, help support and strengthen us in our daily decisions. With a magical touch, we learn to be better people. <br />
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So, let it continue, these fairy tales, until the end of time. For some, it's our only hope.<br />
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Until Next Time!Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-21733990896330472532013-06-30T00:56:00.002-05:002017-12-20T21:30:32.144-06:00Is There A Soul In There...?!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Because I'm into the weird and strange; and anybody who's into vampires, werewolves, fairies, mermaids, and all those inhuman monsters, can find something about them attractive, tantalizing, or just simply AWESOME!<br />
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Am I the only one who got turned on by an ape in <b>Planets of the Apes (2001)</b>?<br />
Huh? Yes? It's just me? ... Oh.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">BUT I LOVED GENERAL THADE!! </span><br />
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Yeah, I thought that chimpanzee was just TOO SEXY! Or maybe because he was played by Tim Roth, and I found that little guy just SEXY!! Especially in that TV series <b><i>Lie To Me</i></b>.<br />
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And why am I talking about sexy monkey's?<br />
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Love works like that. You don't see anything ugly, wrong, disturbing, bad, or amiss with the object of your affection. And if that sounds strange or untrue to you, try seeing it in the point-of-view of a <b><i>Beauty and the Beast</i></b>, a favorite fairy tale of all time. And then there's the <b><i>Princess and the Frog</i></b>.<br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Nothing is too ugly, new, big or small, for the eyes of the beholder.</span></b><br />
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We can get hopelessly devoted to unordinary things, which makes a person want to sing!.<br />
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I think it's what's inside that counts...<b>inside of ourselves that defines the outside</b>.<br />
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It's what we view inside ourselves is what we project unto the object of our love and thus we are seeing with an "inner-eye" that makes us blind to what's on the outside.<br />
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Sometimes I think we blind that "inner-eye" so that we can't see what's exactly in front of us. Sometimes it is not blinded and we can see what really IS in front of us....and that's a good thing.<br />
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"Is there a soul in there?" General Thad questioned, while prying open a Human's mouth.<br />
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I would like to name it "soul" or a "holy spirit", when we actually SEE what's inside ourselves.<br />
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Either way, who we are in the inside, makes us who were are; and it also creates what, and who, surrounds our lives.<br />
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Keep that Lil'l Light burning...!!!!Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-38301918401603401362013-03-30T00:13:00.000-05:002013-03-30T00:13:06.411-05:00Oz Broke My Heart!<div style="text-align: left;">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b><i>Oz the Great and Powerful</i></b> (2012) film was definitely an eye opener for a broken heart.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Soooo.... anyone want to sing </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Pat Benatar's <i>Heartbreaker </i>song with me?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Your love has set my soul on fire, burnin' out of control</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">You taught me the ways of desire, now it's takin' its toll</span>
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</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">You're the right kind of sinner, to release my inner fantasy</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The invincible winner, and you know that you were born to be</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Yep, that's what Oz was. A heart breaker. And what did he say about making those women fall in love with him and using them and breaking their hearts? Yep. She'll get over me..just like the others.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><i>Heartless!</i> <b>A Heart of Stone Coldness.</b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">But there's a lesson to be learned from watching this film. One should not give you heart away so quickly. And also that old saying: Beware Of Those Bearing Gifts!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I know that everyone wants to believe, so strongly, about love and how it comes like a Cupid's Arrow, and "love at first sight" does exist, and Charming is there to sweep us off our feet; but there are also those predators that use those hopeful hearts as well.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Oz was not only cute and charming, he gave his "grandmother's music box" to every female he wanted to shag. He even gave them job opportunities and a lovely dance.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">These women meant nothing to Oz and he shrugged off any thoughts of actually hurting them as if it was their own faults for falling for such <i>smoke and mirrors</i>.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Yet...even HE had his heart filled with someone, but could not give it to her because he knew he would only cause her misery. Auntie Em chose the right man, though she truly loved that carnival magician.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Then, that undeserving thing happens. That heartbreaker actually PICKS someone. And t</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">hat lingering question always come about with those who so love that heartbreaker. Why did </span><b style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">SHE </b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">get him? What did </span><b style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">SHE </b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">do that </span><b style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I</b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> didn't? Why did he pick <b>HER</b>!?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">That famous, notorious, question... and no one seems to know that answer except the heartbreaker, who doesn't give much of answer when he's asked. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What is certain is that a road must be followed and things must take place. For he must have his heart warmed, first by someone loyal (a bellhop monkey), then by someone in need (very delicate china doll), and then face himself and his trespasses (the evil witch). When this road is completed, then, SHE appears. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">F</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">or SHE just happens to be The One. And only SHE, who already knew what kind of man he was, who could see him for who he actually is, could he love. For SHE was never broken by him.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">SHE was simply fated to be with him.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Simply put.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Sometimes we can't have the man we love because we just aren't made up to be his. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">But we are made up to be another's.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Until Next Time!</span><br />
<br />Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-82739776919680516602013-02-20T18:22:00.000-06:002013-02-20T18:22:13.026-06:00Welcome to Tirna Magique!!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Got a novella up and ready for those hungry for a romantic short. It's a magical 150-page novel, thus it's called a novella because of it's short length. Filled with all the things I like about fantasy: dragons, dwarves, mermaids, and fairies, I quite enjoyed writing this heartfelt story.<br />
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Here's a summary of what this story entails:<br />
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With the Earth becoming uninhabitable, Humans are being evacuated. Thanks to the Gapie race who offered their homes to all willing Humans, life can continue on, but mostly in darkness. Transition to this new world, which only has four hours of sunlight, would take over twenty years. Earth is now in year twelve.
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Only Alesa knows the true reason for the Gapie's "helping-hand", and she has plans of her own. But first, she must get her girlfriends to trust her, and that took a few years to do. Now, she would implement her plans and take her friends on an adventure that would change their lives, and their hearts, forever. </blockquote>
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So, there you have it! Just wanted to share that another romantica element has been added to my bookshelf store to engorge.<br />
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Check out <b><i>Tirna Magique</i></b> at the local online eBook of your choice (Amazon, Barnes and Noble, etc.) for less than a DOLLAR!<br />
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Until Next Time!Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-31083956612678456122013-01-04T20:55:00.001-06:002013-01-04T20:55:05.214-06:00The Hobbit... My Two Cents of My Preciousss!!<br />
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Well, what I didn't know was that the film would only contain the first 6 Chapters. I hadn't done my research on it, and the title didn't state anything about Part 1 of 3 (and it does have 3 parts, which I learned later), though there was a subtitle of some of the chapters of the book that came up while viewing the movie. More epic films? Not that it was yet another movie divided up over three years was much of a problem for me, because what was covered in this movie, and how it ended, was a great, satisfying ending for me.<br />
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I had decided to prove to someone the WHY I had never read <b><i>The Hobbit</i></b> stories. I remember it going on and on and on and on and on and hardly ever getting to the action, the beef, of the story, and it kept explaining this and that and the other on what every species of character was being presented in the book. It was bloated. So, I found the first few pages online (Like over <a href="http://books.google.com/books?isbn=0345339681">here</a> or <a href="http://www.freebooks2u.com/fantasticfiction/The_Hobbit/">here</a> or <a href="http://readr.ru/john-tolkien-the-hobbit.html?page=50&submit=%D0%BE%D0%BA">here</a>) and began reading it out loud. It proved my point on how it kept going on and on and on and on; and for books during that time, people <i>had </i>time to sit and enjoy reading every-single-descriptive-word-of-a-very-very-long-story and taking the time to be entertained in a world with so much detail and humor.<br />
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For the first few screens of <b><i>The Hobbit (2012) </i></b>was almost basically word-for-word from the few pages of the book that I read! The singing, the conversations, almost everything I read was verbatim! And because of that, I quite enjoyed the movie because it mentally set me up that I would be seeing a book-on-film, and I didn't have to read, and undergo, every word to get into the story.<br />
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My sister had wondered, "Heck! Was this a movie or a musical!" So, the singing portion confused her on what type of film it was supposed to be, and I explained that it was following the book...exactly. There was a lot of prose in the novel and that was also placed in film, which would really confuse those who didn't read those pages, and because I pridefully wanted to "show-off" on the WHY I never read the book, while watching the film after ready the few pages that I had read, it made me quite enjoy it even more... I enjoyed it!!<br />
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(Oh! And before I end this post...I just LOVE Gollum, my precioussss!!!!" He was the highlight of the movie!!)<br />
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How we feel the excitement in the air and our blood boiling with lustful dreams when we <span style="font-size: 16px;">reconnect with that old flame. It's an opportunity to "get things right this time around"; it's fate </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">which gives us a "second chance". Those flashing warnings of "remember, you broke up for a reason" or </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">those "what happened in the past, stays in the past," all goes out the door.</span></div>
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Why not take that opportunity, given a chance, if you have it now. Why not?!<br />
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<span style="font-size: 16px;">I say,<b> GO FOR </b></span><span style="font-size: 16px;"><b>IT</b> .... if you are both already <b>available</b>, that is.</span></div>
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Be careful of that <i>dream catcher</i> when you are already in a dedicated relationship. That love, or <span style="font-size: 16px;">lustful, excitement for that OTHER PERSON would only last for so long (two years most times) when you do GO FOR IT. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small;">And when it's just an "online thing" it isn't, IS NOT, "just innocent" when you're already in a </span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">relationship. You could</span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"> rationalize all you want that, you're NOT doing that physical connection, or "horizontal dance," as some call it.... You're <b><i>just </i></b>chatting. ONLY chatting. You're <b><i>just </i></b></span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;">texting. You're <b><i>just </i></b>emailing. You're <b><i>just </i></b>doing it online. No harm done.</span></div>
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powerful place to make things come true, which included the negatives. Once the idea is in your mind, it's like an addiction, <span style="font-size: 16px;">and you can't get over it; you can't get under it; and you can't get around it.</span></div>
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You can't wait until that next instant message, to see their availability online, to smile, to laugh, <span style="font-size: 16px;">to desire, to love. You crave for it. You hunger for it. You can't control your thoughts, your </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">mind, because you're always thinking of the next time you will be able to make that connection </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">again.</span></div>
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It's an UPPER! It's a DRUG!! There's someone out there who thinks you're wonderful, who understands you, who desires you <span style="font-size: 16px;">like no one else. It feels like the perfect way to fulfill your desires without the actual guilt </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">of doing the "actual act". And, in most cases, it feels like True Love.</span></div>
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You're too busy concentrating on the good feelings of that online connection, that you don't want to deal with the <span style="font-size: 16px;">negative ones any more; the ones that bring you down, your current relationship. You just want to feel what LIFTS YOU UP.</span></div>
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And even when people say, and even when you know, that EVERYONE, including that online digital <span style="font-size: 16px;">connection you feel so strongly for, has ISSUES, you just can't seem to see it: their faults, their negatives, their issues.... Because it just feels too good.</span></div>
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The love tank. I learned about that in that book <a href="http://www.nightbeforeday.com/2012/06/i-hate-self-help-booksbut.html">The 5 Love Languages I blogged about previously</a>. It's the perfect <span style="font-size: 16px;">definition to explain what happens in relationships that fall under this new wave of affairs: </span><span style="font-size: 16px;"><b>The Emotional Affair</b>. It's just so easy to concentrate on the good and positive of that digital affair than to deal </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">with the negatives in the real and current relationship.</span></div>
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<i>But you can only run from your problems for so long.</i> And jumping into another relationship, no matter how great it appears to be, would only <span style="font-size: 16px;">bring about other issues that you just didn't see when you were in that <b><i>drunk emotional state</i></b>.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Yeah. You are drunk. Drunk! <b>Emotionally Drunk</b>. Inebriated by that desire, or love, and you can't see straight, or see </span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;">the most common sense issues, with that new focus in your life. You have no sensible logic or reason, and <b>your </b></span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>mental faculties are impaired</b>.</span></div>
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that you would have a much clearer mind, instead of the the emotionally drunk way of thinking, when making that decision to go into that other relationship. You <span style="font-size: 16px;">would also have a clear conscience that you made the right decision, rather that is to leave your </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">current relationship or go into the next.</span></div>
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There's a <span style="font-size: 16px;">reason why you're emotionally addicted, because there's a dream that you want, and currently you don't have it. You must first be sure to know </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">what that dream is, and with who.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small;">The steps below could start you off on making your dream come true by </span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">detaching yourself from the addiction and move forward to</span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small;"> having a sober mind on where you heart should be.....</span></div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Step 1: </span></b><span style="font-size: small;"><b><i>Be honest with yourself:</i></b> Admit that you are crazy about this person, which is usually </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">quite easy for some, but some don't openly admit it at all. They just keep denying it. So, be </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">truthful.</span></div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Step 2: </span></b><span style="font-size: small;"><b><i>No you CAN NOT BE FRIENDS!!!: </i></b>This person wasn't a friend before and isn't now. This </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">person was in your soul and in your heart. Be truthful to yourself as in Step 1. You can't be a </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">friend with this person. Period. And you MUST tell yourself that you can't be friends. It will just </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">be too painful, and much too tempting, to try to "turn back the clock". The "friend cage" is not </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">where you want to be, because eventually the charade will come undone, and you're unlocking the </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">door of the cage. What will pour in would be pain and guilt. Don't even attempt to do the </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">"friend game". You must let go completely.</span></div>
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<b style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Step 3:</span></b><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small;"> <b><i>Write a list:</i></b> People say this, but I always thought it was stupid. I already know what </span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small;">the problems are and what I want, why do I have to write them down? </span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">Admittedly</span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small;">, you really have to </span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;">just try it out to see how it helps. Acknowledge the reasons why you're unhappy in your current </span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;">relationship. Write down a list. Write it! Write it! Do it! Do it! Yes, do it! Write the list. </span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;">What you'll find is that the list will help you focus and put things in perspective. A list of what </span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;">you don't like and what you do like, will make things quite clear and real. It makes it so it's </span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;">not really just in your head. Putting the list down on paper (or digital word process or</span></div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Step 4:</span></b><span style="font-size: small;"><b><i> Remove all connections with your love/desire: </i></b>Yeah. This is a hard one. Because you'll </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">be scrambling around trying to find that information again when you want to get back in touch </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">with that person. But, you can't keep focus with something sitting on your stomach. I mean </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">literally. Imagine someone sitting on your stomach. They aren't going anywhere. They only way to </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">get them off of you is to move them out your way. Push up hard and kick them out. Take baby-</span><span style="font-size: 16px;">steps and just BLOCK them from Facebook, remove them from your chat list, so you won't see what </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">they're doing and know when they're logged in. Delete all the history and remove/block from them from your </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">cellular phone. All of these lines to your love/desire, all of these things are <b>TORTURE DEVICES</b>. Removing them from all digital devices will </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">make you, force you, to take steps where you start concentrating on other things besides your </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">emotional addiction.</span></div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Step 5:</span></b><span style="font-size: small;"> <b><i>Don't be a ghost:</i></b> This goes along with step 4. That person you are connected with </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">deserves to know what you're doing and why you're not communicating anymore. <b>Be honest</b>. Explain </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">the confusion and the pain and that you need to figure things out. How would you like it if you </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">keep calling, texting, IMming someone, and they just completely ignore you? It doesn't feel </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">good. Treat others as you would like to be treated. Speak YOUR truth and then they will be forced to understand it. It </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">might not go over very well, and that's why most people avoid doing it, but it's feels better in </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">your own soul and your own being to be true and righteous. And, along with step 2, be honest to </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">state that you CANNOT BE FRIENDS!</span></div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Step 6: </span></b><span style="font-size: small;"><b><i>Mourn your loss:</i></b> You just let go of something connected to your heart, and <b>it hurts like </b></span><span style="font-size: 16px;"><b>HELL</b>. Don't deny that you have love or desire for this person (step 1), because it just makes things hurt </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">worse when you find out that THEY'VE moved on. Accept that you love them, and mourn that they </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">are gone now. You're grieving on "what could have been" not "what is". You're mourning your </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">current circumstances of where you are NOW, and you don't want to be there. You want to have a clean and positive relationship that has a free and non constricting heart and love. Addiction is not part of love.</span></div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Step 7: </span></b><span style="font-size: small;"><b><i>Do What you Don't want to do:</i></b> The current relationship that you are in, that's not your digital one, is broken and you should try to </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">repair it even when you don't want to. Yeah. Do the steps of repairing it even when you're heart </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">isn't in it. It feels fake and forced, because the feelings aren't there, it's with the other </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">person, but doing something repeatedly makes it a habit, makes it become real. Sit down and have a chat </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">of truthful things. If this can't happen, then it's time to take a break BUT PLAN A DATE WHEN TO </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">COME BACK TOGETHER. It's important to have a break to bring back what's important in one's life. </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">Separation is a GOOD THING when used to heal a relationship. But you must plan to get back </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">together. It's not a time to go have fun with someone else. This is alone time only. And if that current relationship isn't working for you, it's time to do step 4 - 6 with that person too. If children are involved, of course you can't break all connections, but make the focus on the children ONLY, and make the move to your new life which is NOT in a relationship. A relationship must come much later when you're all healed.</span></div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Step 8:</span></b><span style="font-size: small;"> <b><i>Do stuff and Get Busy:</i></b> It's the Do Today what you will put off tomorrow. There's some </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">things that you had wanted to do and just felt you didn't have the time or money to do it. Start </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">making those baby steps to DOING IT. The sense of accomplishing something will slowly fill you </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">up inside where you were empty. This is something for yourself and NOT some external factor, addicting, emotional drugged relationship, that </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">you felt would "save you". It's time to start getting busy for YOURSELF!</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>Step 10: </b></span><span style="font-size: 16px;"><b><i>Forgive yourself: </i></b>Be honest. You've done some mean things. You were a part of having a <span style="font-size: 16px;">relationship that was NOT working, rather you chose that person wrongly, or it was right "at the time", or you did something that </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">cause them to distrust you and treat you differently, </span></span><span style="font-size: 15.555556297302246px;">or for whatever reason...</span><span style="font-size: 16px;">You MUST take your part of the blame to </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">heal. Admit your wrong doings and then forgive yourself for doing them.</span></div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Step 12:</span></b> <i style="font-size: medium;"><b>Believe in yourself:</b></i> Everything you dream <b><span style="font-size: large;">can exist</span></b>, and it can only exist through <span style="font-size: 16px;">achievement and success. This goes along with Step 8, where if you achieve something, you've </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">completed it, and you feel successful. You can't start believing and loving yourself if you feel </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">put-down all the time, rejected or that you always "f&$K stuff up"!! Forging a path of things </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">you CAN DO, is a path of loving yourself. And to love yourself will empower yourself and make </span><span style="font-size: 16px;">your dreams come to you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small;">And with these steps, steps to healing yourself from addiction and past </span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif;">judgments,</span><span style="font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small;"> and doing these steps without going out to LOOK for your heart desire, everything that you want and dream will come to you!</span><br />
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Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-73374886303845475572012-11-23T12:13:00.000-06:002012-11-29T21:23:41.748-06:00Fairy Tales, Fairy Tales...everywhere!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Just like in my blog: <a href="http://www.nightbeforeday.com/2012/04/stop-teasing-let-inhumans-get-some-and.html">Stop Teasing....Let The Inhumane Get Some!</a>, where all my wishes came true and I got what I wanted, the same goes with Fairy Tales.<br />
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In this modern day and age where technology reigns and fantasies are limitless on the screen, everything that everyone had ever thought of, has ever dreamed of, has ever wished for, is being brought to life.<br />
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I've been watching <b><i>Once Upon A Time</i></b> and <b><i>Grimm</i></b>, and these two TV series keep my eyes glued. I like to record them, pile them up to about three episodes, and then....gorge!!!!! If I had to actually wait every-single-darn-week, I wouldn't be too interested, to tell you the truth. But since I can watch the story lines consecutively, I'm hooked!<br />
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I'm not sure how long <b><i>Grimm </i></b>will last, but I do so enjoy the intrigue of the royal families' internal games and assassinations, and <b style="font-style: italic; text-decoration: underline;">the</b> really sexy prince, Captain Sean Renard (played by Sasha Roiz) that I had to raise my eyebrow at when he was on <b><i>Caprica</i></b>. It's those eyes and those eyelashes...oh my!! And then, when he gave a kiss to Juliette when she was in that coma...yeah. I had to now focus on his lips as well. Hubba. Hubba.<br />
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I also think Monroe, you know the wolf guy (Blutbad), the comic relief of the show...yeah...he's sexy too. I know. I know. He's silly and awkward looking, but I <b>LIKES </b>him. There's something about him that makes me say, "Oh yeah! Sexy. Sexy." He's silly/nerdy, he's heartfelt, he's vicious! All the things I like. I Likey. I Likey. This is an acting role that's making him shine, I think, and I hope he continues to get that spotlight. For me, if it wasn't for his character, <b><i>Grimm</i></b> wouldn't be as much fun to watch.<br />
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I do hope we get more Hexenbiests on the show, though. They were scary and beautiful--a great combination for evil. And we like it when they're nice to look at and also like to rip out hearts.<br />
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And speaking of ripping out hearts, how we do like the Evil Queen (played by Lana Parrilla) in <b><i>Once Upon A Time</i></b>. She has those cute cheeks (that aren't rosy like Snow White's but cute nonetheless), and those perky little lips. Her smile can melt rose petals, and her tearful eyes filled with pain and anger are simply striking. I think I've mentioned it before, but I do so love evil characters that have a background on why they became they way they did. Some are just prone for revenge when their hearts are broken, and they don't care who they hurt because they were hurt too. Yet, they seem to not have an "off switch" and just keep going. Hurting others.<br />
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I do love the slight twists of the fairy tales in <b><i>Once Upon A Time</i></b>, especially about Rumpelstiltskin who is Mr. Gold in the real world (played by Robert Carlyle). For him to also be The Beast for Belle in the twisted tale of Beauty and the Beast....that was an episode that would steal anyone's heart. "Skin Deep" (Season 1/Episode 12) was the best story yet to be told. I want to just keep that one hour episode in my pocket, and take it out when I'm in that romance type of mood.<br />
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And what about those lips on Prince Charming, eh? Oh yeah!!!! For something kissable, and a role that has a character that needs a lot of kissing, those of the lips one dreams of. Played by Josh Dallas, he's one convincing Prince for me!<br />
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And my cutie is Jiminy Cricket, played by Raphael Sbarge. His red hair and cute smile is just adorable! Too bad in Storybrooke he has to be a insect.<br />
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I'm definitely looking forward to the nun, Astrid, who is the clumsy fairy named Nova (played by Amy Acker from my favorite TV Series <b><i>Angel</i></b>), and Grumpy's (the town drunk, Leroy, in the real world) budding romance. I do hope they go back to their story. A love, not quite completed, is a hurtful thing indeed.<br />
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I haven't said much about the leading, and main, characters (Emma Swan, Henry Mills, etc.), because I see those around them being much greater. Yet, I wish that Red Riding Hood (played by Meghan Ory) would have a love of her own.<br />
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Again, my wishes come true, and I love the way fairy tales are being written and rewritten and incorporated into our "real" lives. Because I write along with those types of stories, of fairy tales, and I believe in the "Happily Ever After". I'm so hooked on stories such as these. To show the dark side of life, and the "reality-prone" actions of those that surrounds you, does put that shadow-of-a-doubt that anything of light in stories could be real. Yet, the story is told and retold, which has to mean something! We want those happily ever afters, and we love to watch them and hope. A mixture of reality and fairy tale is the perfect match for me, and I hope that it can be in your life, and mine, one day...if the right balance is achieved.<br />
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Until Next Time!Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-24279331027957426432012-11-09T16:26:00.004-06:002012-11-09T16:26:39.149-06:00Fringe...My Two Cents<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Fringe. I just wanted to put my two-cents on my over-all observation of this Science Fiction TV Series. Mainly, I'd like to talk about the characters.<br />
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<b>Olivia Dunham</b>: Played by Anna Torv. She doesn't give much out on emotions; however, I think that fits nicely with her abilities being similar to those of the <b><i>Observers </i></b>who don't have much emotions either. I didn't see too much of a different between her and her alternate universe version, though they did mention she "smiled more". I saw how the actor even change the way she walked, but her overall personality wasn't much of a change for me. That doesn't say that I don't like the character, but she's a character that goes along with a puzzle piece where she's needed, but not a main focus point, even though she is the main, and central character. She helps the story move along.<br />
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<b>Peter Bishop</b>: Played by Joshua Jackson. What can I say about ole baby face. He always looks like he's going to laugh. And when he was introduced as a genius, con man, and supposedly on a "bad list," I just didn't see it. Actually, I pretty much forgot about that part of his history as the seasons went on. His emotions, like Olivia, aren't very strong though they are a wee bit higher than Olivia's. Yet, when these two are together, I can feel a strong connection. And when they talk together, Peter carries Olivia, where both characters become real. With each character alone, they're not much, but together, they carry out a connection with the audience. You cannot have one without the other, and both halves make a whole.<br />
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<b>Walter Bishop</b>: Played by John Noble. All I want to say is....Can I have one? Please! Please He's just SO CUTE! I love those cheeks of his, and his character never fails to make me laugh. There are some characters who are comic reliefs that, after some time, just makes you want to kick them. Walter Bishop never does. I look forward to his quirkiness and silly jokes each and every time. And when we met his alternate version... WOW! All that fun went out the door when Mr. Serious stepped on the scene. I didn't like him at all, which makes a great actor indeed. I wanted my cuddly Walter Bishop back every time I saw the man. And THAT'S acting.<br />
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<b>Phillip Broyles</b>: Played by Lance Reddick. He's the same as Olivia and Peter. Not much personality here, but he's vital to making the puzzle complete. He's a believable leader and pretty much all I can see him as. I know he had a family, but I just don't see that loving father thing about him, though there were episodes of that...I just wasn't feeling it. He's a solid character, with a stern hand, and that makes a great character leader for this group.<br />
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<b>Astrid Farnsworth</b>: Played by Jasika Nicole. What a cutie! Yes, she is!! Now this is a character that transformed to someone else with her alternate version. She was even believable during her kick-ass scenes. Cute and a Kick-Ass? That's a combination that's hard to pull off, but she did it. You can see her utter concern for her fellow co-workers, and even her heart is shown, deeply, when she lied to her alternate version about her life. Also, back to her alternate version, again, this was acted so, so well. She's a puzzle piece that is vital to this Fringe Division. A care taker of them all, and a brain on top of it. I don't know about many, but I would miss her when she's not around.<br />
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<b>Nina Sharp</b>: played by Blair Brown. Not much to say here, though she does play her characters well. Rather it be good or evil, you can see them both. Being the counterweight to Phillip Broyles, these two are leaders, and you can't have a good team without them.<br />
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<b>Observers</b>: Last but not least, I had to talk about this group of people. They're smooth and emotionless ways make them definitely stand out amongst the rest. And it's not just because they have those shiny balds either. When they were just mysterious and helping and Observing, they were interesting; but when they took over the world, their sinister ways were ....well, pretty darn scary!!! Mixing up blood-dripping politeness and expressionless faces as they carve out your mind and feed it back to you.... Now THAT'S evil!<br />
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<i><b>FIVE SEASONS</b></i> - And I'm sure I missed some important things in my list, but I wanted to jot down those that stood in the forefront of my mind. This is a series that kept it's characters going and it's story line remained fresh every step of the way. From dark scenes to light scenes; from mysterious to terrifying sinistering.<br />
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And I'm all in for entertainment.<br />
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Until Next Time!!!Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-41863154340089267812012-10-23T21:11:00.000-05:002012-10-23T21:11:07.231-05:00Stay Connected To Your Light<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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"Don't Worry, Be Happy!" Words that are repeatedly stated in the same verse as it's title name, are something worth thinking about. As sung by Bobby McFerrin, worrying just makes it double, so it's best to not worry... But, do what?<br />
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<b>Get Busy With Staying Connected To Your Light!!</b><br />
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<b><u>Start up</u></b> that day-to-day plan on how you're gonna get yourself out of that rut. <b><u>Identify </u></b>what it is that's making you unhappy and figure out how to change to. Just worrying and mulling around on something doesn't make it go away. It just puts you in a very bad way.<br />
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Staying connected with your light is the same as staying, and doing things, that make you happy. And if you're not happy, then you have to figure out why and make the steps to change it.<br />
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Trying to get over that "someone"? Tell yourself, each day, not ever week, that you're not going to call him/her and put yourself to work doing something else. Make that list of what's not so perfect about him/her and concentrate on what will be perfect for YOU.<br />
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Overwhelmed with bills? Ask for some help. And I don't mean go borrowing money, but get some financial guidance. Search online for free advice (you're online now, so you have access to the internet to do so). Start by concentrating on the SMALLEST bill first to pay off and then use that money to put on to the next bill. This gives you a sense of accomplishing something.<br />
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Can't accomplish a goal? Figure out the reasons <b style="text-decoration: underline;">why</b> and DON'T make them ole excuses. Planning is always the key to finishing. Step-by-step is the way to reach heights.<br />
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Need some more help on how to stay connected to your light and be happy? I highly, highly, highly, highly (did I say highly? Yep. I'll say it again...), HIGHLY, recommended this book: <b style="background-color: #c0a154; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><i>Getting A Success Change: How To Be Happy In A World Gone Mad by Ed Brodow</i></b><span style="background-color: #c0a154; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">.</span>. I talked about it in my blog....<a href="http://www.nightbeforeday.com/2012/06/i-hate-self-help-booksbut.html">"I Hate Self-Help Books" But...</a>. It will wake you up and make you remember who you are and where you want to be.<br />
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It's dark out there. Having your own light is your only guide, and way, out!<br />
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Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-80392683771594215672012-10-18T18:15:00.003-05:002012-10-18T18:15:32.828-05:00Stranger In Your House....Get Out!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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You ever been that that heated discussion, or rather, argument where someone says to you, rather defiantly: "You don't know me!"<br />
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And you pause...a second.<br />
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And your response, having thought during that second, is that you've known this person over several years, or even raised this person, or married to this person, and they're claiming: "You don't know me!"<br />
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What does that actually mean?<br />
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What it means to "not know" something is to not to have knowledge about a certain, place, person or thing. And if this person is claiming that "you don't know" them, that means that they've been keeping some kind of knowledge from you. And if they're keeping something from you, then the next question is: Why?<br />
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I suppose, instead of saying, "Yes, I do! I've known you for such and such of amount of years!" Perhaps you should ask: "So, what are you saying? You keeping something from me?" And if the person chooses to bring you in on whatever it is, then you will know them again and closeness is re-established. If they choose not too, and you hear them say this repeatedly to you, then...it's time to let go, and/or it's time to....<br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Throw That Stranger Out Your House!</span></b><br />
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No matter what we might think, people want to feel connected, and if you're not feeling a connection with whoever it is, then your house starts to feel <b><i>COLD!</i></b> It's time to <b><i>WARM THING UP</i></b> and make some changes and clean house. Energy is wasted upon those who do not wish to share their heart, time, and entire Being with you. It feels a lot freer to point that energy towards those who you do connect with.<br />
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Trying to stay connected to a stranger, just keeps you in the dark and weighs you down. It's best to look towards the <i>light</i>er way of life--the life without so much weight of frustration, anger, confusion, and stress.<br />
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Let the dark stranger go, and you will feel your <span style="font-size: x-large;"><i>Fireworks!</i></span><br />
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Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-42634256389390742302012-09-16T15:39:00.001-05:002012-09-16T15:39:26.917-05:00The Calling Series: Book 2 and Book 3 Are Here!!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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What a sigh of relief when a project is completed and done! It is definitely one of those times where you just want to lie back and eat Snickers and M&M's one by one...slowly.<br />
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Book 2 and Book 3 of The Calling Series is ready, done, completed and available! I got the paperback and book trailers ready to go too!<br />
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SIGH!!!<br />
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It's definitely a nice feeling to take a break, but then again, it will start all over with the next book or books on the work-shelf to complete.<br />
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I'll make this blog short, because I'm taking some leisure time before I have to start working on my other projects.<br />
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Below books are ready at <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Deana-Zhollis/e/B00530DTSM/ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1?qid=1347827261&sr=8-1">Amazon</a>, but it will be awhile before they appear in Barnes and Noble and iTunes and all the other locations. Just keep checking for you preferred book vendor, and it will be there.<br />
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Take a Look at the Book trailers and I hope you enjoy them!<br />
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Yes, I've been on hiatus for a few reasons, and one of the reason was a recent cruise where I saw the MOST funniest thing!<br />
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I was celebrating this year, a year where I am now 40 years old, along with my sister and close girlfriend from High School who both will also be turning 40 this year.<br />
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While I was on the ship, I observed two young girls, sisters, somewhere around six and eight years of age. The eldest had her arm around her young sister's neck and pulling her along. The youngest protested loudly, of course (it look very uncomfortable indeed) and the eldest shushed her and said,<br />
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"Be Happy... Or Else!"<br />
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I had to literally cover my mouth from laughing!!<br />
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This reminded me of how so many times we put ourselves in situations, or are in situations, where we are actually very unhappy, very uncomfortable, and very discontent, but people tell us that we should be happy!<br />
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"You have this, or that or what have you...so you should be happy!"<br />
"You better be glad for..."<br />
"Be satisfied with..."<br />
"Don't do it..."<br />
"Things could be worse..."<br />
"You'll be sorry..."<br />
"Fine, then! Don't listen to me..."<br />
"Be happy... Or..."<br />
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Be happy...Or Else! Or else what? Something worse will happen if we complain or try to break free from what is making us so miserable? Do we really know, really <i>know</i>, if "the else" would be worse? How would one know unless one finds out? Isn't that all about growing up and experiencing life?<br />
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My mom recently told me a story about myself when I was very young. I came running down the stairs one day, quite upset because I wanted to know why my brother could pee standing up and I couldn't?! Well, my mom referred me to my father to answer <i>that </i>uncomfortable question, and my father, seeming to always know what to say, told me, "Well, if it works for you, do it."<br />
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Well, I tried it and, of course, it didn't work for me, but at least I now knew, absolutely knew, the <b><i>why</i></b>.<br />
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How about asking those who warn you not to "do it" to be there for you if you find out you were wrong instead of saying, "I told you so"...? And if they say they won't be there for you, then... screw them! What are they really saying to you? Ask yourself if they are really displaying love. Do they really care for you? And why can't they show a little understanding and compassion?<br />
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I'm not referring to those who always seem to be right and you always seem to be wrong. Maybe then you need to listen and stop making the mistakes that they constantly tell you, you are making. I'm talking about those life decisions that you just need to find out for yourself, and you know where you presently are is just not happy, and really, if it was suppose to be a "happy place" then you would be happy, right?<br />
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So what?! if where you end is worse or just as bad as where you've been, but at least your moving towards that end of where you really want to be. Make a decision and stick with it. And sticking with it is what will make the decision a right one. And then make a different one if it doesn't quite work out. At least you're not putting up with the stagnant position of where you are, but continue to make progress of where you want to be.<br />
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And, who knows, it might not be a mistake at all...and then what will the naysayers have to say?<br />
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Until Next Time!<br />Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-73425612277965860472012-06-12T21:05:00.000-05:002015-02-01T07:59:28.602-06:00I Hate "Self-Help" Books...But...<br />
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I really despise those "Self-Help" books. Not the DIY (Do-It-Yourself) types where it shows you how to replace your car's front headlights or how to fold a rose from a single ribbon (which is actually pretty cool by the way. I made boutineers!). I'm talking about those other books that try to help you out in your life during a life crisis. These book are either filled with flowery Hippie connotations, or those that give <i>common sense</i> statements that you've already heard before from family and friends, and those statements just weren't working for you.<br />
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Then, there's those other books.... I really, really, really am annoyed and irritated with those books that start off really good, with a list of those questions you happen to be asking yourself, only to fall short with providing a REAL answer to your problem. That's the most upsetting, and I-wanna-bite-and-stab-something kind of feeling, that makes you throw the darn book out the window. This happens when a book seems to promise ANSWERS and give NOTHING to its resolution.<br />
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There's been a lot of soul searching I've run into and came across; and I ran into two books that has been quite a fun read. I was very, very reluctant at first to even take a look, but...I don't know...for some reason I took a peak at these and I actually like these books. And I really, really like this one: <b><i>Beating the Success Trap: Negotiating Your Own Path to Success</i></b>.<br />
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Now grant it, it's been years and years since I've actual sat down and read books back-to-back (I've read only two fantasy/Science Fiction books in the past three years) but these two "Self-Help" books came into my life while I was asking life questions and waiting for signs for answers. I know many don't believe in <a href="http://www.nightbeforeday.com/2012/05/signs-of-universe.html">such things as signs</a>, but I strongly do because I've always experienced getting answers when I seek them out. I wait on the signs to give me some guidance. Now, the signs don't tell me what to DO, but they do give me an idea, and provide situations, that help in making decisions I'm struggling with. And this book came my way right when I needed real answers--my sign.<br />
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It's mainly about how people spend their lives constructing things they don't want, and don't need, only to cut themselves off from their actual personal selves and dreams:<br />
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This author, Ed Brodow, reminds me of those kind of people who just can't make up their minds on what they want to be and what they want to do in life. First he's going to law school (quits), goes into marines (ends), then back in corporate america (quits), and then he's an actor (stops), and then off somewhere else again. He reminds me of that "Rollin' Stone" song: "Wherever he lays his hat is his home". No commitment anywhere, constantly "looking for something," -- a wild and restless spirit. You know the kind, the ones that people keep saying to them that they will NEVER find WHATEVER it is that they seem to be looking for.<br />
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This guy gives ANSWERS and is the perfect rolling-stone-type-of-guy to explain himself and why he's acting that way. He gives example after example of states of unhappiness that keeps you reading, and then explains, YES HE EXPLAINS, the uncomfortable ways you have to get out of it. It is, indeed, a very deep struggle that you have to do in order to do what is written in this book to obtain happiness ... and very scary too.<br />
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Why is it scarrrrrry? Well because, what you would have to do goes against, practically, everything you think you understand and what you think you know. Then it just might isolate you from your family and friends once you've completed the steps. That is, if you have family and friends who <i style="font-weight: bold;">truly love you </i><u>and</u> are willing to understand your drastic change of life, and can accept your new or different assertiveness of what you want, then you might not become a <b style="color: red; font-style: italic;">Scarlet Letter</b> amongst everyone around you.<br />
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But in the end of it all, you're actually fighting for your Happy Ever After and you would be better for it, for you will be at peace, content, and most of all...have your dreams come true.<br />
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The other book, which I finished, was "<b><i>The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts</i></b>" by Gary Chapman. This book actually explained a lot, not just about marriages, but about relationships of people in general and what people actual NEED in their lives and how they need to have their needs met or their "love tank" will go empty resulting in bitterness and affairs. I say "need" several times in that sentence because it's an actual "need," just like food and water, that individuals must have in order to function and avoid physical and mental anguish. They <b><i>need </i></b>someone to communicate with on how they want to be loved.<br />
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As each of us are individuals, we require a individual type of love. Not all of us speak the same "love" language, and thus you must learn to speak the language of your special someone, and they have to learn to speak your language in order to communicate. The mistake is that most ASSUME that you want the same type of love, when actually yotu both can be very different.<br />
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For example, if you speak German and your significant other speaks Japanese, it will be really hard to express yourself and feel a connection with your languages being so far apart. You have to learn each other's language in order to feel as one, and that's what this book is all about.<br />
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Both books give steps or guidance on what you must do in order to achieve happiness, and reading them together this one year, brought about a certain enlightenment.<br />
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So, if you're looking for that path to your light of happiness, try reading "the why" on why the darkness happen and then you'll receive the answers to "the how" to achieve your light.<br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 18px;">So, I watched<b><i> Happy Feet Two</i></b>, and I fell in LOVE with, what to me was, the </span><span style="line-height: 16px;">pinnacle </span><span style="line-height: 18px;">song of the movie. The original song is<i> </i></span><span style="line-height: 17px;"><i>E lucevan le stelle</i> (The stars were brightly shining) from the opera "Tosca" by Giacomo Puccini. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 16px;">And what does Happy Feet have to do with a mix tape, you might say? Well, if I was gonna have a mix tape, I want <b><i>this </i></b>song on it.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 17px;">I know. I'm strange. But this song....</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 17px;">I don't know anything about the opera, but the song of this animated family musical was a delicious explosion to my ears!</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 17px;">The words wrapped up the feeling and story of the road that was being </span><span style="line-height: 16px;">traveled</span><span style="line-height: 17px;"> by Mumble, the tapping penguin, sung by his young son Erik. And it went like this:</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 16px;">After all you have done, you really deserved better.</span></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 16px;">Nothing makes sense in this world. </span></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 16px;">It's all a big pile of crazy.</span></span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 15px;">Erik's opera was touching! And the saying where "Action speaks louder than words?" Well, music speaks the words of the heart and the soul.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 15px;">And you can put <b><i>THAT</i></b>, your heart and soul, into a mix tape.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 15px;">Where we lack in communication, it can be fulfilled with music.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 15px;">If you hunger for love and affection in the deep, physical kind of way, </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">David Guetta - <a href="http://youtu.be/YVw7eJ0vGfM">Turn Me On</a> sung by Nicki Minaj, can express it for you.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 14px;">If you're really wanting someone to know you care, but you're afraid to let them know about it by speaking the actual words, </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 13px;"><a href="http://youtu.be/p52SqtcCN4s">Bound To You</a> from the film <b><i>Burlesque</i></b>, sung by Christina Aguilera, can speak those words for you.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 13px; text-align: left;">If you want to repeat those "I love you" statements, in a different way, </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 12px; text-align: left;"><a href="http://youtu.be/IgLcQmlN2Xg">I'm Into You</a> sung by Jennifer Lopez, and rapped by Lil Wayne, can redefine your words for you.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 12px; text-align: left;">If people are talking about you and you're tired of them "throwing stones" about your short-comings, or they're hating ''cause you're brave to do what is considered by society as "immoral" when they feel they can't, </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 11px; text-align: left;">Britney Spears's <a href="http://youtu.be/T-sxSd1uwoU">I Wanna Go</a> and </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px; text-align: left;">Christina Aguilera's <a href="http://youtu.be/_b0okuftqng">Dirrty</a> can remind you to stay strong and be proud. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px; text-align: left;">If you want to make light of the situation of Haters Hating you, have </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px; text-align: left;">Charlie Puth's <a href="http://youtu.be/H8hsxwAc26M">Haters Follow Me Like Twitter</a> help you rub it in their faces.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px; text-align: left;">Been cheated on? Carrie Underwood's </span><a href="http://youtu.be/WaSy8yy-mr8" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px; text-align: left;">Before He Cheats</a><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px; text-align: left;"> and Melanie Fiona's </span><a href="http://youtu.be/X1EpKYEfJU8" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px; text-align: left;">4AM</a><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px; text-align: left;"> can help you ease your pain by understanding you.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px; text-align: left;">Been dumped? Stacie Orrico's </span><a href="http://youtu.be/rbR73AITYz0" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px; text-align: left;">Stuck</a><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px; text-align: left;"> can relate, and Mariah Carey's </span><a href="http://youtu.be/0habxsuXW4g" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px; text-align: left;">We Belong Together</a><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px; text-align: left;"> can tell that person you made a mistake and that you want them back.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px; text-align: left;">Wanna Blow someone's mind? Do it with Whoa!!</span><br />
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<li><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Aly & AJ's <a href="http://youtu.be/L8p5t4uPCZQ">Like Whoa</a></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And make your man say, "Oh" with Christina Milian's tips in her song <a href="http://youtu.be/5z5Mvyp1QHw">Dip It Low</a></span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 10px;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px;">And if you're wishing for those bright lights in a big city; to be famous and rich, then, </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 10px;">Jay-Z and Alicia Keys's song <a href="http://youtu.be/0UjsXo9l6I8">Empire State of Mind</a> will empower you; and </span></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px;">Travie McCoy's, featuring Bruno Mars, song </span><a href="http://youtu.be/8aRor905cCw" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px;">Billionaire</a><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px;">, can wish it out loud and scream it to the world for you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px;">Yeah. That's right! Make a mixed tape of your life and bring to your heart and soul the strength it needs to lift it up! Lift up with music.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 10px;">Until Next time!</span></div>Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-60505726047670757032012-05-30T21:48:00.000-05:002012-05-30T21:48:02.902-05:00Signs of the Universe<br />
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When something happens that's uncanny or unexpected or can't be defined or explained, we usually say these things:<br />
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"It's a Small World!"<br />
"Huh. Fathom that?"<br />
"I had a feeling that..."<br />
"What a coincidence!"<br />
"Déjà vu."<br />
"<i>Something </i>told me to..."<br />
"What's the odds of that!"<br />
"Speak of the Devil..."<br />
"That's weird. I was just thinking about..."<br />
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At one time or another, we've all experienced something odd to some degree. And it makes me wonder, sometimes, "What does that mean?" Heck, we have defintions and even statements of things that we don't even believe in. I mean, who came up with the word "aura". Why would someone even THINK of such a thing?<br />
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You can't see it!<br />
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We experience these weird occurances in our lives all the time--something actually real and can be felt. Yet, we write them off, or shrugg them off, or turn away from these things as if they were just "things that happen."<br />
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Why do we do that?<br />
Is these happenings THAT SCARY?<br />
I think so.<br />
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Something that can't be defined or explained is very scary. We don't have control over it. It "just happens". For those who are a bit more brave, they may add further statements of definitions like: "The Powers that be" or "The Universe". Other's define it with dieties: god or devil.<br />
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No matter what the <i><b>something </b></i>is, we all know about it, or are at least aware of it.<br />
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I, myself, kind of like the Signs of the Universe. It keeps things interesting. We need a few things to shake up the mundane in our lives now and then; to wake us up; give us an <b><i>eyebrow lift.</i></b><br />
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Sometimes signs helps us avoid a bad situation, or helps us make a good decision.<br />
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Your body definitely gives you signs!<br />
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If you're working too hard, you get sick so that you can rest. You might get migraines if things are not going right in your life and your body is forcing you to make the RIGHT decision so that you won't be in pain anymore. Not discussing fear in these next examples, but sometimes you might break out in hives, or get a belly ache, or experience anxiety for NO REASON, and that is telling you something as well.<br />
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There are road signs from the Universe -- EVERYWHERE -- to help us out while we travel the road of life.<br />
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If only we would listen....<br />
<br />Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-16286063780419597482012-05-23T21:50:00.001-05:002012-05-23T21:50:15.423-05:00Hooking Up? Uh...No, no thanks..And I MEAN IT!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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You know, when I was single, I just wanted to find THE ONE, but for some reason, I kept running into a slew of people who just wanted to HOOK UP.<br />
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Even when I wrote in on my profile that I wasn't interested in the "Come Over" type, it was still misinterpreted that I was saying "no" only temporary and will be saying <b><i>YES </i></b>at the end.<br />
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Uh. No.<br />
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When I said I want to meet in the public arena for a date, that means just that. When I said, "No, you're not coming over," or "No, I'm not interested in meeting at your place" I meant just that. When I tell you that I'm not into the "Can I come over" type of person, I meant just that. When I said I'm NOT going to sleep with you on the first, second, third, fourth, fifth, or whenever date, I meant JUST THAT!<br />
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Why, even today, I'm on a site that is MORE than just a place to "hook up". I can also network there. However, I've been told "YOU NEED TO GET OFF THE SITE" because I happen to respond to an email with a question, or I followed up on what I "thought" was a genuine question to my interest in writing and my books. But because I "responded" to the email, that immediately gave the impression that I wanted to Hook Up?<br />
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Huh?<br />
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That wasn't a legitimate question you asked in the email then, right? Really? And my response pissed you off because YOU weren't sincere in your email, or you couldn't read my sincere intent on asking a question in response to your email. Really?<br />
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Why am I getting misinterpreted time and time again? I mean, I state very clearly my intention in the response, and even repeat that I'm not looking for anything more than just what I stated, and that I'm just answering your question, or asking one in turn, yet still I get these PEOPLE who can't seem to read a response for its LITERAL meaning!<br />
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These occurrences are on sites where it is clearly NOT only for dating, but for community thoughts and interests and job findings as well.<br />
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I don't get it.<br />
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Has the world gone so much insane that plain, written down English isn't "exactly" what a person means?<br />
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That's kind of scary actually. Wow.<br />
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Even those "Christian" sights for finding "The One" is just as bad, no even worse, than those dating sights that aren't. People are there, on a "Christian" online dating site, trying to get their horizontal dance on!<br />
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Really?<br />
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Has online sites actually turn to more than just "finding The One" but into a big orgy for the world instead? Is internet really just for <a href="http://youtu.be/T-TA57L0kuc">porn, like Avenue Q</a> sings about?<br />
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Back in the day, when there were just a select few people online, and those were the geeks--those who knew how to work on a computer, write a sensible sentence, and enjoy intellectual conversation, I liked the environment much better. There wasn't much misinterpretation, and what someone wanted and didn't want was plainly understood. There was no back-lashing of insults if someone just wasn't interested in what you wanted. It was more of a: "Okay. Thank You," or "Sorry to bother you" ... a lot more courtesy back then in the early 1990s--the AOL days.<br />
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But today, there can be someone who claims to have two or three degrees, but type like someone who's in elementary, and can't seem to understand literal typed meanings AND they want to HOOK UP!<br />
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Huh? I don't get it.<br />
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I guess you can say I could just stop responding to emails, and/or change sites. But what if you've been on that site for years and you like what it does and stands for? What if someone <b><i>really</i></b> was legitimate in their email...one day? I would miss out. I guess I just have to wait out these slew of wolves and hunters and allow them to parade on by, eventually finding something or someone or some other site of interest to devour--just wait for the wave to change as it always does.<br />
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<i>Sigh</i>. I tell ya. The world has gone mad!Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-58279001926969061522012-05-15T23:21:00.001-05:002012-05-15T23:21:14.389-05:00Vacation to play Diablo III? Uh huh...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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So, yep, I got a gamer (i.e. hubby) who's taking a 3-day vacation to play <b><i>Diablo III</i></b>. Well, actually it's a 3.5 day vacation, because he started playing tonight (Tues), and will be off the next three days (Wed, Thurs, Fri). He picked up his pre-ordered copy today.<br />
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"Look. Look," he said with a HUGE GRIN, holding up this large box as soon as I came walking in the door from work. And I looked at this box and I'm thinking, What the heck's in there! All that for a CD?<br />
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We'll apparently the gamer (i.e. hubby) got the collector edition. It comes with all sorts of goodies: an artistic book, a USB stick with <b><i>Diablo II</i></b> on it (with a very nice holder, I might add, with a Soul Stone stuck in Diablo's head), some invites for friends to come and join you in this parade of gaming, a soundtrack and some added background information (Behind The Scenes and the Cinematics) on the game on a Blu-Ray disk, also with DVD disk...one of both.<br />
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The movies are I N C R E D I B L E!!<br />
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I took a picture of this huge box, sitting next to my <b><i>Stargate </i></b>coaster. It's a pretty nice box.<br />
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The gamer (i.e. hubby) also wanted me to review the book with art, which he knew I would like. And let me say, I flipped gradually through the pages and eyed all sorts of imagination. The grotesque images on some of these demons were pretty cool. I like the faceless angels and the different way of depicting their wings. I really like the map, because that's my thing that I'm partial to about books--maps inside books...I just LOVE.<br />
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The book even mentions one female character, which they wanted to emphasize her strength and courage, and not all the "sexy" qualities about her. Hmm... Now, THAT was different. But, I do say I like the sexy in the games, and so do Gamers. They do give that sexy-stuff with some other female characters, as well as a naked Harpie type of thing--nipples showing and all.<br />
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For three-minutes when the Gamer (i.e. hubby) walked away to tend to house chores, I took the PC mouse and moved the character around a bit. I just love the detail of these games! The Gamer (i.e. hubby) doesn't look at all of that. He wants to immediately "level up" and kill! kill! kill! I like to view the art and the details painted and drawn inside houses and on characters and the food sitting on tables. Unfortunately, this game is similar to those where you can't zoom in to get all that nice detail in full, but it's clear enough. I like to get close in personal...and maybe one day, they will make all games like that. You know, give that option for those who like that.<br />
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The only frustration about the game, just for now, is that you have to have internet connection at ALL TIME to play, and the servers get <b><span style="font-size: large;">FULL</span></b>! The swarm of Gamers are, basically, overloading the system, and that was definitely expected since that, of course, happened during the free Beta testing that was available during a weekend in April. The forums are overloaded and slow, slow, slow, too. The patient, but anxiously waiting, Gamer, gets kicked out of his game occasionally as they work on servers (they give an announcement with a count-down...which you better heed or you'll loose all your stuff!). He also has to wait for newly created characters to save on the server as well...a long wait for him. But once he's in, it works great, and he can keep his spot for a few hours of gaming!<br />
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Eventually, the activity on the servers will level out. This bottle-neck right now will ease up. That's the way these things go when they're new.<br />
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Needless to say, I'll be a gaming widow for the next several weeks, even though the gamer (i.e. hubby) took a 3-day vacation start to enjoy his fantasy world.<br />
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I can understand that. I'm in a fantasy world EVERY SINGLE DAY, with my stories in my head and wishful thinking of this and that of the fantastic. Writers fantasize daily!<br />
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It's always fun to be taken out of this world, and take that carpet ride to A Whole New World.<br />
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And Gamers's got it like that!<br />
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Until Next time :)<br />
<br />Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-10100159163260188792012-05-07T20:13:00.002-05:002012-05-07T20:13:37.771-05:00Apologies Will Slowly Kill You<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I just love how the characters on Spartacus say, "Apologies." It sounds so cute and...proper.<br />
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But, really, one needs to only accept, "I'm sorry," only so many times.<br />
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My limit is three (3). Depending on what the apology is, sometimes I can only go up to two (2)--especially if it's about the SAME THING.<br />
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If someone does it once, that can be forgiven, but if they do it a SECOND time, the same exact thing...well, that goes into premeditated, and intentional.<br />
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It's really beneficial to yourself to stay away, and run far, far away, from those who keep apologizing to you.<br />
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Apologies should MEAN something, just like a PROMISE. If someone apologizes to you, it should be sincere and it's supposed to be a promise that it won't happen again. At least, that's how it should be.<br />
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It doesn't mean anything if it's constantly REPEATED!<br />
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And if you're the one who is constantly hearing it, don't you know that it's sucking the life out of you? Yeah, they're like Vampires, draining you drop by drop of your life blood.<br />
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"I said I was sorry!"<br />
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Uh Huh. Don't you feel the fangs digging in? Slurp. Slurp. Slurp.<br />
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Ask yourself why you're tolerating being hurt and disappointed by this "person" constantly. I I put "person" in quotes, because they really aren't people anymore. They're life suckers!<br />
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Forget about their excuses on the reasons "why" they did it; forget about "how hard they had it in life;" forget about all the "woes is me" they put out there to make you feel bad (even if you DID do something wrong to them, you don't have to <b style="font-style: italic; text-decoration: underline;">constantly</b> try to make up for it. Did I say constantly? Yeah, Constantly, as in repeatedly, always happening again and again. Forgive yourself because their actions should tell you that they aren't ever going to forgive you); and forget "the consequences" that you think would come if you don't accept the <i><b>sorries</b></i>.<br />
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Free yourself from the <b><i>chains </i></b>that pull at your heart.<br />
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And yeah, it's gonna hurt, because we won't so much to believe that things will change...someday. And letting go is never easy.<br />
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But, MAN does it feel good after you do!<br />
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I'm sorry, but it will :)<br />
<br />Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-80973730832081679402012-04-29T15:57:00.000-05:002012-04-29T15:57:01.818-05:00Need Help? Been There, Done That.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Those who extend a helping hand to those who are unhappy, uncertain, lonely, confused, angry, and filled with anxiety, these helping-hand people who have the answers to help those in emotional need, aren't perfect themselves.<br />
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That statement isn't a put-down, like those who revel in the thought of a fallen "So-called Christian". It is a beginning of a reasoning on the WHY you can resolve your problems with the help of those who also have them.<br />
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A combined effort of people who are alike to help one another is the only reason why those who TRULY seek help can fix themselves. Don't put down those with normal, but not with immoral, problems, because they are Human. YOU are Human, which makes ALL of us ALIKE. We can identify with each other. We can understand each other. We are familiar with each other. We are CONNECTED to each other...because we are alike.<br />
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How many times have you heard these statements:<br />
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"You don't really know until you've walked in my shoes."<br />
"You don't know what it was like. You weren't there."<br />
"Well...I'm not you, am I?"<br />
"Of course, <i><b>YOU</b></i> wouldn't understand."<br />
"You <b><i>get </i></b>it!"<br />
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One needs to have what is in likeness in order to feel connected. With that connection, you feel comfortable and <b style="text-decoration: underline;">understood</b>. That person <b><i>gets </i></b>you. And that's all that you need to start the steps to fixing yourself, because the one in front of you, the one who is helping you, has <b><i>been there</i></b>. <br />
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If you TRULY want to change, seek those of likeness, and go towards the change.<br />
There are those who TALK that TALK, but don't take the steps to WALK that WALK. They don't want to make a change that would solve their problems...they just like to TALK about it.<br />
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But those who truly want to change and take that walk, they understand that those steps are very, very hard to face, are very,very hard to make. Those steps are very, very (did I say very again? Why, yes I did) very, very uncomfortable, unnatural, insane, and fearful. Sometimes the steps take you away from family and friends and jobs because you wake up and learn that you have steps that you must walk ALONE, and that you must take yourself outside of the "normal" world for some time in order to accomplish fixing yourself.<br />
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Fight against those common words:<br />
"Are you going through a mid-life crisis?!"<br />
"That's just the way things are!"<br />
"You think you can do better!"<br />
"There's nothing more than this."<br />
"You have So MUCH! Why are you willing to just throw it all away? And for what?"<br />
"The grass isn't always greener."<br />
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Maybe sometimes having EVERYTHING isn't what you want. Maybe having what people consider NOTHING would make you happy. Maybe having MORE is not what you need. Maybe you need something DIFFERENT in order to be happy.<br />
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I'm not talking about not facing your Fears where you have to take responsibility, or go outside yourself for someone else for the greater good. I'm not talking about those situations where you can feel when you must do Right but just afraid to do it.<br />
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I'm talking about the sensation of doing what is Right for yourself that you know should be done, but are afraid to do it.<br />
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Find your happiness and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. There are those who have been there, done that...and they know you. Or they're extending a hand to you to also help themselves.<br />
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Finding happiness, finding a good connection, finding Love for yourself <b><i>IS</i></b> a Battlefield.<br />
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But you must remember, there's always Night Before Day.<br />
<br />Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-16058141715384897402012-04-03T20:06:00.002-05:002012-04-08T13:46:39.639-05:00Stop Teasing! Let the Inhumans Get Some! And Live Happily Ever After!<br />
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Sometimes an author runs into some old writing that makes them laugh. Back in the day, there was a website called ThemeStream, and it allowed authors to post their stories. The more reads that a post got, the more money the author acquired...but then the website went under.</div>
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Here's one of my postings on the website back in 2001. Of course, decades later, none of this applies anymore and my wishes have been met, but reading my frustration at that time was really funny. Enjoy!</div>
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<o:p><b><span style="font-size: large;">Stop Teasing! Let the Inhumans Get Some! And Live Happily Ever After!</span></b></o:p></div>
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There he is! The
handsome vampire. He’s leaning over a
beautiful, exotic woman. They’re
kissing, they’re groping, she moans, he does too, the scene is
tantalizing. Then . . . his three-inch
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What a let down! Ok, calm yourself. Let’s try again. Next scene . . .</div>
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She’s there, and he’s there.
Their eyes link. They’re both
willing. The breathing increases. They come together in a heated embrace,
they’re kissing, they’re groping, she moans, and he does too. Then . . . she turns into some hideous alien
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Why can’t the alien, the vampire, the supernatural, the
whatever, get some and have a “happily ever after?” If it isn’t one thing, it’s another. Let’s go down the list.</div>
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1) Vampires: We know,
usually they don’t have sex and if they do, they’ve turned into some kind of
big dog or vapor rub, and they still kill their partner since they get sexual
intimacy confused with food. So, forget
about the “happily ever after”, since they would burn up during the sunset
anyway . . . and they get killed at the end of the movie.</div>
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2) Werewolves: Well,
they get some only when they’re human and if they do have sex during their
transformation, they either eat their partner or use them as a scratching
post. They get killed at the end too.</div>
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3) Mummies: Hmmmm, they’re just old and decaying and it
would probably fall off if they tried.
But, those who <u>can</u> get some usually tie their partner down on
some altar to be sacrificed so that they could bring back their “real” true
love that their victim reminds them of.
Oh yeah, they re-die at the end too.</div>
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4) Ghosts/Entities:
Despite the fact that you can’t see them (which doesn’t do much for the
sex scene), they usually can’t touch anything either. And if they can touch, they’re too angry to
think about sex anyway. Instead, they
want to throw things around or do some vengeance thing. Most times they’re simply demonic: they just want to go out and kill
people. Yet, in those rare cases that
they do have sex, their partner is more than likely unwilling and ends up in
the hospital after the encounter, trying to get some scientists to put the
thing in a block of ice.</div>
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5) Mutants: Oh, now these guys do get their girl. But it’s mostly rape and the female ends up
pregnant and dies from an exploding uterus (Except for the woman who had great
sex with her mutant partner--though human-looking at the time—but she had to
kill the insane thing. Now, she did have
a natural childbirth . . . then she died of fright looking at the larva thing
squirming in the doctor’s hand. The poor
woman died unnecessarily since she didn’t wait for the doctors to open the
thing up to see that it did look human . . ..
But, then the child turned into a fly years later, then turned human again,
so she missed out on his wonderful development).</div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Starman (1984)</td></tr>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Starcrossed (1985)</td></tr>
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6) Aliens: Just like the Mutants. Female partners still die from an exploding
uterus, rather they’re willing or not.
However, these guys come very close to a “happily ever after”. They’re usually disguised as humans (which
is a cop-out with special effects, but that’s another story), so the sex scene
are just like R-rated movies, human with human basically, but still wonderful
sex. Then . . . the alien either has to
fly off, returning to his planet because the government is harassing him, or
she needs to go home teach her fellow aliens what she learned from Earth to
save her planet from enslavement, or he has limited time that he can survive on
Earth, thus, leaving his broken hearted lover stranded behind (since she either
can’t survive on his planet or it’s to dangerous for her to come along), never
to see her again.</div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Stop the teasing!!</span></div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Toxic Avenger (1984)</td></tr>
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I want some action! I
want some start-to-finish sex with no death or exploding fetuses! I want a “happily ever after” ending, and I
don’t want it to be a cult or B-rated movie that’s absolutely silly. Yeah, you’ve seen him. Him and his voluptuous, blind
girlfriend. Sure, the toxic guy gets the
girl, has a “happily ever after,” sort of, and yes he does get some; but the
scenes are so silly, you can’t possibly be aroused. And let’s not forget the slapstick movies
where the vampire does get the girl, and lives, but the guy isn’t at all
attractive. He’s either too old, too
ridiculous to be taken serious, or Adam Ant.</div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Adam Ant (1993)</td></tr>
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The only inhuman guy that actually got the girl was that
purple hair alien who came down with his yellow and red goofy friends to get
laid by some Earth chicks. After getting
a whole body shave and skin-dyed, he was one handsome human-looking hunk. And the sex scene . . . well, it wasn’t memorable. But then again, this was a
slapstick/comedy movie and I want R-rated!!</div>
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So, if any of you out there who’s reading this can suggest a
good R-Rated, Sci-fi flick with supernatural characters who: have willing
partners, gives a great alien and human sensual sex scene (not
alien-that-looks-like-human with human), have a wonderful romantic plot and has
a “happily ever after,” I would really like to see one. Until then, I guess I’ll have to stick with
the flicks that thinks it’s too taboo to have erotic relationships on the big
scene with the inhuman; or I'll just settle down with an unconstrained, sci-fi author’s
book and use my imagination.</div>
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*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* </div>
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LOL! Well, as I've stated, decades later, my wishes have been answered. I got TV series like True Blood, Game of Thrones, and Being Human to satisfy my appetite. </div>
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<br /></div>Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-61608614574105404122012-03-28T13:19:00.003-05:002012-03-28T13:19:34.161-05:00The Calling Series: Jetta and Creations<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left; margin-right: 1em; text-align: left;"><tbody>
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I'm half way there with finishing up the 2nd and 3rd novels of The Calling series--Jetta and Creations.<br />
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Woot! Woot!<br />
<br />
I've done my last review of <a href="http://zhollis.com/Jetta.htm">Jetta</a> and I'm now finishing up looking over <a href="http://zhollis.com/Creations.htm">Creation</a>s, then both will be ready for the editor, and I'll be contacting my Book Cover Designer as well.<br />
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This is soooooo exciting!<br />
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Now for a little History on The Calling Series: I started the first book of the series in 1998 and completed it in 2000. <a href="http://zhollis.com/TheMade.htm">The Made</a> was self-published in 2009. I then started <b>Jetta </b>in 2000 and completed it a year later, but didn't self-publish it along with <b>The Made</b> because I needed it while I worked on the 3rd book. <b>Creations </b>was started in 2010 and completed this year 2012. I don't plan to have the 4th and final book, <b>Nostrum</b>, take that much longer. I already have an outline ready to go and the characters names and adventures are in the noggin.<br />
<br />
Well, I digress, who knows how much longer it might take for the 4th book. Uh...I don't know. Life gets to you and you just don't know what might happen. That's why it's taking so long to get these 4 books out and ready to go.<br />
<br />
I can't believe it's been that long, though, since I wrote down the first sentences of my stories. Wow. And they're just NOW going to be in print? And they're just NOW being read.<br />
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Man, time does fly when working life. I tell ya.<br />
<br />
But anyway, for those who've read <a href="http://zhollis.com/TheMade.htm">The Made</a>, be looking for the next two books in the series to be available in a few months. The specific month they will be available, I'll make sure to post. Or rather, I'll probably just post when they're ready to buy. In either case, two more books will be done and complete and ready for reading.<br />
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A wonderful place to be.<br />
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Until Next Time :)<br />
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Sometimes, what something looks like, or what something sounds like, can be misconstrued.<br />
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There's a cartoon character in the film <b>Who Framed Roger Rabbit (1988)</b>, who's been quoted by many who have seen the film.<br />
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"I'm Not Bad. I'm Just Drawn That Way."<br />
<br />
When Jessica Rabbit (voiced by Kathleen Turner) made this statement to the classic detective, even though the words were saying that she was innocent, the <i>way</i> she said them still made her look...deliciously bad.<br />
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Yet, in the end, we learn she was doing what she felt she had to do for her beloved husband, Roger Rabbit, in order to protect him. Even to the point of taking "dirty pictures" of patty-cake with a man that was not her husband, and hitting Roger Rabbit over the head with a frying pan and stuffing him into a trunk of a car. All of this gave the appearance of a deceitful vixen, but Roger Rabbit was the love her of life.<br />
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We have heard, and even know, that on the surface of anything, there's always something more.<br />
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"Don't judge a book by it's cover"<br />
"More than you bargained for"<br />
"The grass isn't always greener"<br />
"And that's just the tip of the iceberg"<br />
"You've barely scratched the surface"<br />
"Looks too good to be true"<br />
"More than meets the eye"<br />
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On any decision where you question something, you should face your fear and investigate what lies beneath.<br />
<b><i>If you go looking for something, you just might find it.</i></b> People use that saying to invoke fear. Maybe you need to find the truth. Sometimes people regret finding the truth. In either case, if it wasn't meant to be known, you wouldn't know about it. Anything that's hidden in the dark, soon comes to light.<br />
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You learn about things for a reason. You investigate for "more" for a reason. Rather the knowledge is good or bad, too much or an eye opener, it's all something to grow from.<br />
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And growing up, means growing strong, means growing free.<br />
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Until Next Time!Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-5094773677630380152012-03-14T19:48:00.000-05:002012-03-21T19:52:21.308-05:00The Kiss<div style="line-height: 0px; padding-bottom: 2px;">
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True Love's Kiss<br />
The Perfect Kiss<br />
It's In His Kiss<br />
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Hmmm. Yeah, Baby!<br />
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Truthfully, in real life, I find that <i>The Kiss </i>is a powerful thing. I make it an important piece of my stories, because with it seals a union of the hearts, or reveals the lack of it.<br />
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And what's so powerful about a kiss? It's just kissing?<br />
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Well, it might be "just kissing" to some, but for many of those of the romantic nature, <i>The Kiss </i>is very important. It's what ends the vows of a wedding; reveals the tides of a budding relationship rather casual or permanent. It's a loving or friendly statement of goodbye and hello. It's what keeps a man....you know...during that horizontal dance; and it's usually what happens after the end of the climax.<br />
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It defines the human bond.<br />
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I find that <i>The Kiss </i>is more intimate and explosive than actual sex. It's like going backwards, eating the icing and then the cake.<br />
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I suppose you can say that it's all in your mind on <i>what </i>it actually is, but I find that in human connections of love and romance, it is the revealing of <i>The Kiss </i>that tells all to the voyeur who witnesses it or those involved in it what its meaning is.<br />
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Your name and My name, sitting in the tree.<br />
K I S S I N G<br />
First comes love....</blockquote>
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Hmmm. Yeah, Baby!<br />
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SIDE NOTE: Characters in Picture<br />
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Snow White<br />
Aladdin<br />
Sleeping Beauty<br />
Beauty and the Beast<br />
Tarzan<br />
The Hunchback of Notre Dame<br />
The Little Mermaid<br />
The Lion King<br />
Hercules<br />
Lady and the Tramp<br />
Pocahontas<br />
MulanDeana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958141209896198136.post-42047188318946462492012-03-07T21:37:00.001-06:002012-11-29T21:45:16.358-06:00Once Upon A Time<br />
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The timeline beginning with <b><i>Once Upon A Time</i></b> and ending with <b><i>Happily Ever After</i></b> is a story filled with: wishes and regrets; love and hate; and strength and weaknesses.<br />
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The new <b><i>Once Upon A Time</i></b> TV series has really reflected upon how a fairy tale can be viewed in<br />
the real world if the characters where transport here. In the episodes, life isn't filled with much contentment, at all, for the characters. They are angry, lonely, bitter, scared, or pretending that life is well. Yet, in their fairy tale lives, it is still mirrored, a reflection, of their real life.<br />
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Turning your life into a fairy tale can be done following one of the two paths: The Bad or The Good.<br />
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<span style="color: red;">The Bad Path is long and treacherous...</span><br />
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<td>Manipulation</td>
<td>where bridges are burned to the point you have no one to turn to.</td>
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<td>Lies</td>
<td>which is a avalanche of being buried alive with a stamp of "Distrust" to every one you meet.</td>
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<td>Cheating</td>
<td>which has small, trinkets of being happy, that never stay and thus become addicting.</td>
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<td>Stealing</td>
<td>which has a boomerang effect where eventually things are being stolen from you, and if they aren't stolen, you're paranoid that they will be.</td>
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<span style="color: red;">The Good Path is long and hurtful...</span><br />
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<tr><td>Being the giver</td>
<td>which opens you up to being stepped on and used.</td>
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<td>Doing the right thing</td>
<td>which is the discipline and hard road of life..with "no fun" as they say; given the stigma of "you're too good for us" projected attitude upon you.</td>
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<td>Being protected</td>
<td>where you don't experience any part of life and remain stagnant.</td>
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<td>Truth</td>
<td>which can isolate you because no one really wants to know, or hear, the truth about themselves.</td>
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Both paths to your heart's desire doesn't sound too appealing, does it? Yet they both ARE fairy tale lives.<br />
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We tend to forget the hardship that happens in a fairy tale, the path taken from <b><i>Once Upon A Time</i></b> to <b><i>Happily Ever After</i></b>. The Beast was abusive; Cinderella was a slave; Snow White and Red Riding Hood were hunted to be murdered; Little Mermaid and the Swan Princess committed suicide; Sleeping Beauty and Rapunzel where kept in seclusion; Hansel and Gretel, as well as Goldilocks, were thieves; and the Frog Prince was emotionally abused.<br />
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Fairy Tales, as with any fiction story, are a reflection of "real" life. The only difference between the real and the unreal is that the unreal has a savior. Following the Bad Path usually ends with someone saving you. Following the Good Path usually ends with you saving yourself. Thus, in both cases, a fairy tale has a hero.<br />
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For your life to end, or be lived, as a Fairy Tale, you must save yourself, or receive that miracle of someone saving you. You must have in your life...<br />
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A Hero.<br />
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<br />Deana Zhollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04089514247278641405noreply@blogger.com0